On September 25, 1963, 10-week-old Michele Rose Rubin passed away from unknown causes. After an autopsy was performed, her cause of death was deemed 'not hereditary' and her parents, David and Judy Rubin, were encouraged to have other children. Gary was born to the Rubin's on January 2, 1965.
Around his second birthday, Gary complained about a burning feeling in his eyes. The Rubin's took him to many specialists. Finally, at the age of five, Gary was diagnosed with Tyrosinemia, a metabolic disorder that attacks the liver. The autopsy diagnosis for Baby Michele was incorrect ? Tyrosinemia is hereditary and both Michele and Gary had it.
The Rubin's heard horrific tales from doctors: "He won't live to be a teenager." "He won't grow to be over five feet tall." "He will one day develop a tumor in his liver." Gary defied the odds, and, as a teenager, dreamed about being a hockey coach or a chef. He graduated from college as a chef.
His mother remembers asking him to cook a meal valued at $9,000 (the cost of his education). This occurred upon his graduation. It was worth much more than that to us because he had survived to be a teenager and was 5'6" tall. We hoped the liver tumor would never appear.
After graduating from college, Gary came to live with his parents in Florida where he worked as a cook. Gary left Florida at the age of 24 and returned to New York as a Garde Mangé Chef at Club 21. During an appointment at his New York hospital, he received the dreaded news: A liver tumor had appeared and the time for a liver transplant had come. Gary accepted the news because he thought that once he had his new liver, the Tyrosinemia would be history.
On July 23, 1990, the call came from the University of Pittsburgh Presbyterian Hospital that a liver was available. "Gary called, very excited, to tell us he was on his way to the hospital," David remembered. "We met him in Pittsburgh on July 24th after spending hundreds of dollars on airfare, which we could not afford. We had no one to help us financially."
Gary's transplant took 13 hours and was deemed by the doctors "very successful except for the large and aggressive tumor."
According to Judy, "We were very low on funds. When he came out of the hospital on August 9th, the first thing he wanted was three Arby's roast beef and cheese sandwiches because his Tyrosenemia prevented him from eating protein for 25 years." Judy said, "Because of low funds, it was difficult to buy anything for him."
Gary returned to Florida in early September. He had constant pain in his back and then broke his leg. David and Judy took him back to New York for an evaluation in January 1991. It was during this visit that Gary was diagnosed with metastatic cancer from his liver. He was flown home on an air ambulance; a flight that cost $2,700, paid in advance - yet another expense the Rubins had difficulty paying.
Gary died a year later, on his 27th birthday, after a very courageous battle.
"I swore if I won the lottery, I would go to the ICU waiting room in Pittsburgh, listen to families, and give money to the people like us, who had nothing," Judy said. "We have more resources now and I have named COTA in my will, with a fund to be established in Gary's name that will help transplant families who have financial issues that prevent them from focusing on their child."
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